Let's talk seriously here a sec. I want to discuss something..
🕑 Added 2022-04-06 15:01:19 +0000 UTC
Let's talk seriously here a sec. I want to discuss something I've heard often and I'm here to help.
"I can't bottom. It hurts too much."
Some guys eschew taking a cock in their holes because they just can't relax enough to allow it in. I used to be that way...getting fucked hurt so much that for years, I only topped. I was with a guy once (well, more than once) who was strictly a top, no interest in getting fucked, and he really wanted to get inside my ass. He said he was in no rush, but that he was gonna get inside me if he had to stay there all day and night (which would have been ok with me since he was kinda hot). He spent a lot of time lubing up his fingers and gently fingering me with first one, then two, then three digits, and encouraged me to join his fingers with my own. I was still tight, but the more into it I got, the more I could feel how to relax my hole and let him take charge of it. There was a little bit of pain, but it actually gave me some pleasure, and eventually it would fade as my senses became more attuned to what was happening inside me. He massaged my hole which made me want insertion. Crave it. It took a little bit of time, but once his cock was inside me, I was lubed, relaxed, and ready. And he took his time, starting gently, but eventually all I wanted was him to ram it, to jackhammer me....I hadn't gotten fucked in such a long time and it was all tied in my head with pain and difficulty. This totally blew that away, and to this day, though I don't get fucked often, I know how to relax it, to prep myself by fingering my hole with a lot of lube, giving myself one, two, three, four fingers, knowing how to ready myself in no time at all. And of course, it's even better when I'm with someone who isn't a clumsy ass, who just assumes I'm ready the instant he pushes his dick against my hole. Nope. Patience. Don't take it until you're good and ready. And then make sure that your partner is aware that you need time and stay in contact with them. Don't be afraid to let them know what you're feeling. You can say "slower," "easy," "hold on," etc, because if you're not comfortable, if it hurts too much, your hole can actually have abrasions which will make the whole thing miserable. So Take. Your. Time. But I'm telling you, once you learn how to relax your hole, you're in for the most pleasure you'll ever be capable of having. When I take a man's cock in my ass, I feel a combination of submission and power, that I'm being used and yet controlling the moment, tightening my hole to increase the friction on his cock, to hopefully egg him on to fuck me harder, sometimes gentler, always exciting. As you know, I'm a guy who's more into safe sex with a rubber, but you do what you need to...and if you're negative, I recommend taking PREP. But that's a whole other discussion.
For now...you guys who are either afraid to or feel like they can't but really want to: Get fucked. It feels amazing. If you aren't comfortable exploring it with a partner yet, get a dildo, nothing too big, and take some play time to work your hole with your fingers to take the toy. Toys are great for hole training, and it's kind of a fun challenge to increase the size of your toys as you become more and more adept. Dildos, butt plugs, whatever. Very fun.
Oh, and if you're gonna take something up the ass, you're going to want to douche beforehand. A clean ass is a happy ass when it comes to fucking. I can talk more about this in a separate post if you want me to. Otherwise, go get yourself a Fleet product, read the directions, and have at it. It's definitely worth your time pre-bottoming.
Any other questions, feel free to message me. I'm not a licensed sex therapist, but I've gotten fucked enough to understand how it's done.
I thought of all the above as I got this little video together. I found putting this moment into slow motion really shows how it amplified the pleasure I got when my partner worked my hole before he fucked me. Here's "Slo Mo Hole Prep." Experience my pleasure with me....then go out and find your own. Have a great day!
Thanks to @FaeFilms for the video.
