How did your man(Sunny) go about the mental side of pegging ..
🕑 Added 2023-02-24 20:47:00 +0000 UTC
How did your man(Sunny) go about the mental side of pegging and things like that given that he is a dominant?
This was asked by a fan today-
I knew I wasn't the best person to answer so I handed Sunny the phone and you can read what he typed below. I thought it was too good not to share as I know so many men want to experience pegging, in so many ways, but also in an unkinked and unsissy way- because they genuinely love the feeling but do not love being dominated and society has generally made this a submissive activity.
"Hey there! Sunny here. Happy to share the mental gymnastics I do to be able to be pegged but still be dominant.
Jokes aside for me it’s all about boundary setting, mutual understanding and mindset.
The boundary has been set that I do not like to be dominated in any way. Period. I am her daddy and she is my sub. She may get bratty and try to be a little dominant from time to time and that is when I assert myself and reaffirm the boundary that I do not get dominated. I dominate. It’s a fun little aspect of our dynamic.
There is also the mutual understanding that when I get pegged there are zero elements of domination. I am not being dominated. I am being pleasured.
And the mindset I have while being pegged is that my sub is serving me by pegging me just the same way she does when she gives me a blowjob or other one sided sexual acts.
Finally I am a pleasure dom. What that means is that I derive nearly all my pleasure from providing pleasure to others.
I need to know that my partners are enjoying themselves and getting what they need out of an experience. If they aren't enjoying themselves, I don't enjoy myself.
I know that Skye truly enjoys serving me and fulfilling my needs by pegging me. Her pleasure from pegging me fills my pleasure dom cup and allows me to enjoy the experience in a way that does not compromise my place as her dom because I am fulfilling my core purpose which is to keep her safe and enable her to experience whatever she desires."
It was really an incredible question, and it really does show the mental gymnastic as all kinks can do- but I wanted to share this with anyone who has been questioning this, wanting to do it, or finding a way to approach it with their partners and have had trouble due to the perceived submissive nature of pegging.
Kinks can be whatever you want and you can morph them to fit your needs. There are no hard set rules other than the ones you make. Traditional views of kinks and how they work can be used as a starting point but, like a food recipe, you are free to add your own flavors and styles to make them your own 😃
